Yet others are really great human beings. I had no idea how hard it could get. Oh this is a great set of questions. If she is full on Mormon, this relationship will go one of two ways: You will convert and change your entire lifestyle and personality to conform with her expectations never to deconvert or you will face severe penalitesor you will break up because you won't convert and change everything about yourself. And I don't mean my good friend Satan. When we were dating he made it very clear to me that he had no desire to come back to church. I recall reading a talk from Elder Nelson in which he indicated that the church teaches general principles and does not spend time teaching exceptions to general principles. She's too heavily invested in Mormonism for that. The rest of it is all just the normal course of events for someone in this situation, but this isn't a good sign: If he were thinking about you, he'd contact you when he does have the rare free minute or two. She likely hasn't had many long-term relationships and has no idea what dynamics are involved in one.
In fact, the church is designed to help people come unto Christ, who is the only one who can change our hearts and help us overcome ourselves to come back to him. Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change. I have been with him through medical school and residency for internal medicine, which was tough, but manageable. I know a Doctor who drug his wife and 2 children across the US to begin his residency. And ah yes, I have a very strong dislike of all nurses. I am his wife and we have 4 children. And as many posters stated, it is something that needs to be seriously discussed with your potential partner. A straight-laced, returned sister missionary, raised in the cult, and in family of similarly entrenched cult members, will not likely remain happy with a non-member.
JS married a girl her age when he was 37, after having told her that he had been threatened by an angel with a flaming sword and promising her entire family salvation if she consentedI decided to read the ces letter. I'm pointing this out because I don't know her and couldn't tell you what to expect. And there is NO taking them off to wear a sleeveless shirt, cute sun dress or regular, girl-length shorts in the summer. Over the span of the last year though, things have slowly changed. My current atheism bothers him a little but as long as we respect each other it's fine.
I was off travelling the world when I met and fell madly in love with a deployed Marine. Which is an absolute lie. The reality is that while God gave us a gospel of love and stands always ready to give us a helping hand, his mercy will not rob his justice. If my mother needed her surgeon's attention, I wouldn't want him to be thinking about his wife's lamenting that he's never home, not romantic, etc. Fifty years later, not one of her 3 children, her dozen grandchildren or her numerous great grandchildren is an active member of the LDS church. I am very independent and have my own life my own career and do not need my partner to be with me all the time. This man basically tells you in a simple way within 6 minutes. No walking your daughter down the aisle, no giving your daughter away at the alter, nothing but you standing outside the temple waiting till it's over. I am in my first year of medicine.